Monday, October 15, 2007

ARE WE (LADIES) THIS SHALLOW

Does visiting an old friend in his hotel room = i want to have SEX?

An old friend/toaster called me up on a Sunday telling me he would be in town on Monday. Was busy on Monday so I called and we agreed to see on Tuesday around ten. D-day came I went to his hotel he was the perfect gentleman. Now that Ten was not just a random time. I picked it so if he starts being funny I could pick my phone make a fake call and say oops got to go my boss needs me…if that does not work I would be like abi u go pay my salary? He is a Nigerian that would have worked.

Anyways all my scheming was unnecessary as he was an epitome of Gentlemanleness. Seriously his face would have been next to gentleman if dictionaries had pictures. He even opened the car door 4 me when I was going! Ha I was deceived. Little wonder later when he called and said he was not leaving town as earlier planned I jumped at his suggestion to hang out. Time for our rendezvous was fixed 4 3pm. (note I left work from bout 10-1130-my excuse early lunch) 3pm came I stood up with a frown on my face I left the office mumbling under my breath. Who born my colleagues to ask 4 my destination or if I was coming back. I had 2 things on my mind

free lunch
free lunch at a restaurant I wanted to go 2 but did not have enuf cash

Wishful thinking. Got to his room he offered me red wine I declined. He brought the hotel menu I frowned and knowing hotel food I asked how the food was. As expected he had nothing good to say I took my cue and said nonchalantly ‘o I know a good restaurant just down the road’. It worked he said we would go in a while afta we chat. I stupidly consented and accepted malt while he chatted bout how he is making so much money now…was not really impressed but I listened, nodded, and said Good where necessary. In my mind I was being supportive BIG MISTAKE. I drifted off channel O was playing and I was busy admiring Dbanj when he held my hands and told me he still loved me (had not seen him in three years so I thot considering I was fatter he would be over me). I smelt trouble, after his tirade bout how our lives would be perfect together I got up to leave. That was when it happened he flung me on the bed and started trying to fondle me. chei I tried to push him off me no luck. I forgot all my talks of if a guy tries to forcefully have his way fake consent and diplomatically leave promising to return. I prayed in all languages including Igbo and Yoruba which I don’t speak, made the usual promises to God promising not to miss another Sunday service. God intervened and Mr.Randy Toaster set me free but blocked the door saying he dos not want me to leave like this that I should stop acting like a child, and stop annoying him. Imagine I said fine 50 50 I am annoying him he has annoyed me the scales are tilting to my side. He let me go about 30 min later.
Thot I had learnt my lesson but as I was typing this that same night an ex called saying he would be I town. I am ashamed to say I agreed to meet him in yes HIS HOTEL ROOM!

Quere: who is more shallow we ladies that keep going to see dudes in secluded places or the dudes who assume our coming means we are horny?

27 comments:

Diary of a Mad Soul Sista said...

lmao @ praying in igbo and yoruba tellin God u no go miss anoda church service. lawd gawd dats jokes!
hmm... and you said yes to this one again? cant wait to hear the tori. hope u get pepper spray

anonymous gal(retired blogger) said...

o well did mot make it.weighed the pros and cons and decided not to go.

Standing Truth Betold said...

smart.
if you cant learn from your experiences, whats there to learn from?
i think you made the better choice in the end. from my perspective anyway.

N.I.M.M.O said...

As a guy, I believe ladies should know this:

When a guy invites you to a hotel; ask to meet him in the lobby or bar. Never in his room. Always a bad idea.

And Yes.

Fine Girl + Hotel Room = SEX (or at least try-ya-luck).

Nice blog you have coming up here.

Nimmo

anonymous gal(retired blogger) said...

@stronger truth, yeah experience is the best teacher.
@ N.I.M.M.O thanks 4 the advice from a guys prespective.

Ubong Da said...

I don't understand why some guys try to force babes, for goodness sake make all the moves but if she says no then its no haba.

I remember a babe i took out on a nice dinner, she agreed to pass the nite with me s0....in fact I think I blogged about it under "http://ubongda.blogspot.com/2007/02/babes-sef.html"

Brilliantly Me said...

Really? I'm actually friends with the author. Read the book before I met her though. Have you read her new one?

bArOquE said...

what else is there to learn from if not our experiences...or experiences of others...it is not about not visiting guys in hotel but about the guy...if you can trust him go visit...just no tempt am if you no go gree do...easy gurl

shhhh said...

forcing babes is not it. a little charm, a lot of patience, nice cologne and some wit will insinuate interest at least. then you may have sex later. to answer ur question it takes two to tango

loomnie said...

No, it does not equal sex, but I am sure many guys think it does....

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Unknown said...

waow

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Stuck in my throat said...

LOL!!!Love N.I.M.M.O's response...he had it on target...na true...man must try...

We sisters need to stop going to hotel rooms...

Unbiased said...

My dear get on the wagon of netural territory. Better safe than sorry. You could have been raped!!
Your weight doesnt matter. It is how you view yourself. Not all people look good like bean poles. A little meat on your bones means your curves are hot. Keep you chin up and see what these hungry boys see. lol!!

Writefreak said...

Girl, please i think you should start saying your NO and sticking with them o..abeg, don't go and put yourself in a difficult situation. As a rule, i would not meet any guy alone in a hotel room. Thankfully, i am not really in that position any more since i am married.

Please stop meeting guys in their room so as not to send the wrong signals

Abimars said...

lmao, but nimmo hit the nail on the head fine gal + hotel room definately = sex!!!

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

Na only igbo and yoruba, eh! You lucky say the bobo let you commot

So, you are ready to go through it again? Na wa oh! Stay safe sha

anonymous gal(retired blogger) said...

Thank for all the comments.bottom line no hotel room even if its Burj al arab. how sad but trully we ladies put our selves in SITUATIONS.

Afrobabe said...

ok,first of all...my magic word would have been "making loads of money" lol...

seriously though I hate it when a guy friend suddenly feels like he can have sex with you...and they actually beleive in their dim brains that you are just playing hard to get when you say no and start beggingg or worse try to force you. Do they think the force will work,or the pathetic look on their face when they are begging?

Afrobabe said...

please now, just this one time....oloshi

anonymous gal(retired blogger) said...

@ afro babe,seriously the look on their faces as they beg makes you want to laff. but u cant coz u are in a situation u want to get out of.

diary of a G said...

ITS TRUE yawl know we wanta fuck
*am tipsy right now*

Unknown said...

I really don't like hotel rooms, after I was mistaken for an escort I stopped setting my foot in even the lobby if I wasn't a guest of the hotel.

I'm glad you recognize the situation you possibly put yourself in, but now what are you going to do about it? Yes people put themselves in precarious situations, but by no means does it mean that of assault were to happen you'd be to blame, though if something were to happen to you what would be your course of action? what legal recourse could you actually take.

Unknown Blogger said...

Well since this is a gossiping and truthful blog lol, i'll say the ladies. The guys are doing what they have to do to get some and its our(ladies) duty to prevent it if we don't want to.

Sunshine! said...

Hotel room ke..........wondervuuuul......lol
Guys and thier mischiefs.
nice blog hun!

miss hotbody said...

Fine Girl + Hotel Room = a variable which ranges from "I just wanted to jist but the guy was cool and I became horny so we did it" to " I meant to f##k him but he was so uncool I changed my mind and put on my clothes, and yes, No still means No"

I don't really think you were in danger of being raped. I mean, the guy was scared also. Why? He had the presence of mind to stop and also to make sure you calm down so you dont run out shouting "RAPE!".

Maybe he misread you but that doesnt make him a rapist. And today's rough handling maybe tommorrows rough play!

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