Tuesday, March 25, 2008

A reply to all my unanonymous acquitances

I am not a snub.trully.im just shy.extremly shy. the other day u said hello to me i answered you, under my breathe coz i could not shout out like u did,nor could i look in your eyes like u attempted to. When u asked me to come hang out wit your friends i said no not because i did not feel like hanging out wit you, but coz crowds/pple terrify me. its not my fault that im not out going or that i can spend the rest of my life indoors or is it?
ok seriously thats wat i go thru every day how does one overcome an extreme case of shyness. most people think im a snub. wats the line that divides being a snub and bein shy? are they one and the same thing?
wat makes me terrified of crowds? sure i hang out but i have to go with pple i know very well.i would rather stay at the bac..but if they insist i go to the front. if they are there im ok.
How come if my friend lives me alone in a room wit a stranger im pertrified?
how weird am i?

31 comments:

Afrobabe said...

Happy Easter love, it's hard for people to understand a lovely girl is just shy and not snobish....

Just give them the "Whatever" attitude...

U missed that post cos I quickly posted another the next day...was hoping no one would see it...lol..

doll (retired blogger) said...

not to wierd. LOL.

O'Dee said...

I just feel its ignorant pple that feel shy/reserved folks r snobs.

You r not weird jo.

tobenna said...

Quick question...
Are you really, really shy?
With your friends or family, I mean?

Anonymous said...

Hmm i get you on this one sometimes pple think i am a snub yet in actual sense i am too shy to interact

Onome said...

shy pple are usually regarded as aloof...but whoever is nice enough to take time out to get to know d shy pple ending up liking dem loads;-) so relax chic u aint shy...neida are u weird

Naija Chickito said...

I understand exactly how you feel. But you can only be yourself, irrespective of what people think. Be nice and courteous to the best of your ability. Not all of us were made to be the life of the party!

anonymous gal(retired blogger) said...

@ tobenna nay.im not shy wit family and friends.

Anonymous said...

i could be like that sometimes....................

bumight said...

nothing do u jare!

guerreiranigeriana said...

nothing do you o!!...don't mind those rubbish people...people have a way of projecting their own insecurities onto people...you not talking to them may make them feel inadequate/weird...

...you could try drinking a lot before you go out, to loosen up you know...or smoke some pot...jokes aside, try to put yourself out there a little each time you go out...smile at someone you don't know...or actually strike up a convo with someone...i can be incredibly shy and awkward around people i don't know...i have to talk myself into smiling and striking up convos...you'de be surprised the folks you'll meet...but no shakings!!...

tobenna said...

@ guerreir...... Drinking actually works. Infact, too well. You'd be surprised at your 'misyarning' rate.

All of us are not shy with people we are familiar with. However, what would it take us to cross that line?
Suggestion, I'm not a fan of self-help books, but try this: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie It worked for me. I think its readily available in Lagos.

Bubblegum Thug said...

Happy Easter. I used to be really shy, till i looked at myself and figured i was just as important as the next person. I also noticed that pple loved my sense of humor and dont give a crap attitude and living life to the best of my ability.
So i started talking. It can start with something as simple as going to an event alone, that way u are forced to socialize. I am the queen of "having a convo with anyone". I can talk to a CEO and i can talk to a street bum. Beat the shyness, u will see how much easier a lot of things will become, cause if you stay pleasant, u will end up with a lot of networks. notice i didnt say friends. lol

Joy Akut said...

you're just human babe, not wierd. i get that way too.
i love what onome said, it just says alot about what shy people are, behind the shy facade is a person whos interesting and you just get to love and enjoy being around.

Jennifer A. said...

U're not weird...LOLLLLL...

U're just shy. Hey, u can actually out-grow ur shyness. Did u know that? Just do everything oppositie to ur character. If u really wanna hang out with someone, then ACCEPT. If u really want to talk to someone but u're shy, then just go ahead and "TALK" and words will come out...

But overall, shy people are great in communication (I'm being partial cos I'm a little bit shy too, even though some people don't agree with me...he he).

desperate lady said...

Sometimes being shy has something to do self esteem. Some people don't feel comfortable around others bcos their not comfortable in der own skin.
It may not be d same for u though.

James Tubman said...

i can feel you because sometimes i act the same way

but the best way to get over your shyness is to just get out there and experience life

that helped me a lot

try it

Ms. emmotions said...

very wierd.....

lol

hope u had a sweet easter gal

AkaniZZle said...

its okay, some people are just like that,
some people are loud too, differnt people

what weird about it?

Edirin said...

some poeple are different from otheres, youre not weird my dear

Zena said...

ur not weird,

it's not ur fault people mistake ur shyness for being a snob, u however can change that, try pushing urself,at least give urself a challenge. Half my friends rn't talking to me now bcos they feel I leave them hanging when truly I'm petrified of going out

Flourishing Florida said...

u r not weird, gal. daz me right there u were describing. d story of my life. it took me years of fighting my shyness, but every once in a while it creeps in on me

soupasexy said...

really weird...lol..j/k.

i dont think there's anything u can do about being shy sha. just enjoy it there's nothing wrong with it..am kinda shy too.

Jinta said...

its ok to be shy, its also ok to be different

Unmodern said...

You just have to work at it. I know its hard , but take it one step at a time....

People used to think I was snobbish when I was in school, but really I was just a shy kid.

Try to remember that when you are not approachable people may think you are being mean . That helped me anyway , because my fear of people thinking I was mean and unfriendly outweighed my fear of people. And u just keep smilinig and talking to them until you get used to it.

(ps thanks for stopping by my page)

Jayn Sean said...

Mmh!

N.I.M.M.O said...

Very weird.

Anonymous said...

Hey, omg I can totally relate! Not too long ago I was soo shy! People thought I was being snobbish and all that ish until they eventually realised I was just shy! Towards the end of my A levels things got a lot better though. Anyway it takes time but you can overcome your shyness which is often related to a low self esteem.Shy people often think people see all their faults and so therefore judge them negatively and so on. However primarily this isnt the case.So hold your head up, be who you are and say what you feel because those that matter don't mind & those that mind, don't matter!! :)

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